I like to think of how we choose decor in a similar way as relationships. Let me explain...
I knew a girl in high school that had this amazing funky hairstyle, wore the cutest clothes, was witty, funny and spontaneous. We were friends until I realized she was using me for my car and that I was dating the best friend of her on-again, off-again boyfriend.
If I had taken a little time to see if we really were a good fit as friends I would have seen that we didn't have many common interests...I just thought she was cool from outside looking in.
Since high school I've had some practice at assessing the relationships I enter into. I've realized there are set things I typically consider before deciding if it will be a good fit and becoming besties. A filter if you will.